If the creative process has gone well, you should now be ready to share your work in the final stage: SHOWING. The moment of truth!
As you work, writing and rewriting, there’s a constant internal pressure to share what you’re doing with others. Especially these days, now that our lives are enhanced / blighted (delete as appropriate) by social networking and ubiquitous narcissism. Of course, you want people to like your work. You’ve spent so long working on it, why wouldn’t you want to share it? You want (and need) approval, encouragement, and validation. But they might hate it, or laugh at it. At you.
As you work, writing and rewriting, there’s a constant internal pressure to share what you’re doing with others. Especially these days, now that our lives are enhanced / blighted (delete as appropriate) by social networking and ubiquitous narcissism. Of course, you want people to like your work. You’ve spent so long working on it, why wouldn’t you want to share it? You want (and need) approval, encouragement, and validation. But they might hate it, or laugh at it. At you.
You show someone your
story and ask for feedback, but then baulk when they tell you what they think.
It isn’t realistic to expect everyone to like everything you write, but that
doesn’t stop you trying. If you’ve detached appropriately from the work, showing
is a little easier, but this stage of the process is still fraught with
anxiety. Will they love it, hate it, or worse – not care. Indifference is the
ultimate buzzkill.
This anxiety may push
you into showing your work before either it or you are ready. You show it to
the wrong people at the wrong time and for the wrong reasons. It becomes more
about showing off and trying to impress, than a genuine desire to improve your
work or make a connection.
Shy Mind
Showing your work and
getting feedback is scary because there’s so much at stake. At this stage of
the process the fear is called Shy Mind
anxiety and it can really twist you out of shape. Shy Mind can make you
aggressive, complacent, timid, cavalier, glib, rude, arrogant, delusional…
Because you’re not
thinking clearly, you make wild assumptions about the marketplace, and give
editors, producers or publishers way too much power over your own peace of
mind. If you try to second guess what you think other people might be looking for, you can end up
butchering your work and your ideas.
One way to deal with
this anxiety is to avoid showing altogether. You claim that you write just for
yourself, convinced you don’t really care what anyone else thinks. But isn’t
writing about communication? Isn’t storytelling about making a connection? Don’t
you want to move people, make them feel the emotions you’ve had reading great
books or watching great films?
There’s nothing for
it. You can’t hide in your cave forever. You’re going to have to come out and
face the world.
You need a plan.
To Show or Not to Show
The way to deal with
Shy Mind anxiety is with ‘appropriate performing’.
If you find yourself indulging in compulsive or impulsive showing – stop.
Compulsive showing is usually a sign that your ego is getting too big for its
boots and could do with a slap. It’ll probably get one too. This desperate listen-to-me-because-I’m-important
kind of showing never really works, unless you’ve managed to surround yourself
with yes-men and women.
To make sure you’re
showing for the right reasons, think about why you want to share this
particular piece of work. Will you show the whole thing or just part of it? Does
it need more work before showing? Most importantly, think about what you want
to get from showing the work.
When you show your
work, and to whom, depends on what you want to get out of it. And this depends
on what stage the work is at. Is it an early draft for which you need feedback?
Is it nearly finished and you just need to double check if it works? Is it
finished and looking for a sale?
Or do you just want
approval?
Be honest. Most of us,
most of the time, are probably looking for a pat on the back, a big tick in the
margin, and a heartfelt “Well done!” or “Good job!”. And perhaps a gold star. It’s
great when someone likes your work, but I’m a little wary of accepting that
kind of brainless congratulation. It’s fine once the work is finished and out
in the world, but if you’re looking for constructive feedback it’s no use at
all. How will you improve your writing if all you get is gormless grins and
vacant nods? I suppose it depends on
who is doing the grinning and nodding.
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| Very good - now can you do that with a ball balanced on your nose?! |
If someone likes
something you’ve written perhaps it’s a good idea to ask them why. If they
can’t tell you, their opinion probably isn’t worth anything.
When you’re ready for feedback, again you need to choose your audience carefully. Does the person concerned have the relevant experience? It’s no good asking your mates for feedback, unless they also happen to be successful writers, editors or producers. Equally, don’t ask your family for notes. They’re not capable of objectivity, even if they think they are.
Get several different
opinions. Everyone will have their own take on your story and you need to learn
how to tell when feedback is worth listening to, and when to throw it out. You
need to understand your work and yourself, and the person giving you feedback.
An editor will give feedback in a different way to an entry level reader, or a
professional critique service, or another writer. They’re all looking for
different things from the work.
And remember: when
your work is rejected, and it will be, don’t take it personally. Every writer
fails. Every writer is rejected. It’s not a reflection on you. The story may
need more work. It might be the biggest pile of tripe ever set down on paper.
The person rejecting your work might be right. They might not.
“When a writer receives praise or blame, when he arouses sympathy or is ridiculed, when he is loved or rejected, it is not on the strength of his thoughts and dreams as a whole, but only of that infinitesimal part which has been able to make its way through the narrow channel of language and the equally narrow channel of the reader’s understanding.” – Hermann Hesse.
Don’t take it personally.
You are bigger than
one story. There is more to you than writing. (I hope there’s more to you than
writing – you’ll be a poor writer if there isn’t.) No matter what happens
throughout this process, no matter how many people love, hate or ignore your
writing, it is imperative that you keep writing. The only guarantee in this
business is that if you stop, you fail.
Since this is the last
in the series, inspired by the book Fearless
Creating, I’ll leave the final word to Eric Maisel:
“Will you create? The question is an open one and can be answered only through action. If you have taken that action, congratulations! You know as well as I do that not creating is a dead loss; and that creating is one of the few genuine answers to the question ‘How can a life be meaningfully spent?’”
How do you show your
work? Share your tips, glorious moments and nightmare scenarios below..
Image: White Peacock
First posted here: http://jessicadavidson.co.uk/2015/01/26/the-creative-process-sharing-your-masterpiece/
