If the news and
miscellaneous madness of the world is getting you down, there’s one guaranteed
way to cheer yourself up: Gratitude.
In fact, gratitude could be seen as a kind of elixir of life. Do you want to be
healthier? Practice gratitude. Want to reduce stress, boost your memory and
improve your relationships? Practice gratitude.
Numerous studies and controlled trials have shown that regularly counting our blessings makes us
happier and more satisfied with life. Gratitude focuses our minds on the
positive side of life and reminds us that we depend on each other for so many
things. Even if we’re struggling, practising gratitude can make a difference to
our mood.
The benefits of gratitude:
- It makes you happier and improves long-term wellbeing
- It makes you healthier, lowers blood pressure, reduces pain, increases vitality and energy levels
- It makes you more friendly and improves your relationships
- It can boost your career by improving decision making and increasing productivity
- It helps you to relax and reduces stress levels by making you feel good
- It changes how you remember the past by boosting recall of positive events
- It boosts your self-esteem and makes you more optimistic, less materialistic, more spiritual, and less self-centred
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| from happierhuman.com |
The easiest way to
practice gratitude is to take 5 minutes at the end of each day to note some of
the things you’re grateful for. If you write them in a journal, you’ll have a
great record of all the good things in your life that you can revisit whenever
you need a gratitude booster. The blessings you list don’t have to be big or
significant – they could be as simple as watching a bird flying or the
awareness of the breath in your lungs or the feeling of being alive.
Consumption and the Law of Dissatisfaction
Another body of
research suggests that materialism has an inverse relationship to happiness.
Materialism in this case doesn’t refer to the philosophical theory but to a
value system that sees possessions and your social image as more important than
anything else. You don’t even have to be rich to suffer from materialism, or
affluenza, but if you do, you’re pretty much guaranteed to be miserable.
In his article OneRolex Short of Contentment, George Monbiot illustrates this socially
destructive mindset with images posted on Rich Kids of Instagram:
“The pictures are, of course, intended to incite envy. They reek instead of desperation. The young men and women seem lost in their designer clothes, dwarfed and dehumanised by their possessions, as if ownership has gone into reverse. A girl’s head barely emerges from the haul of Chanel, Dior and Hermes shopping bags she has piled onto her vast bed… a photograph whose purpose is to illustrate plenty seems instead to depict a void. She’s alone with her bags and her image in the mirror, in a scene that seems saturated with despair.”
Those who fall for the blandishments
of materialism are more likely to experience lower levels of wellbeing and
happiness, as well as more depression, anxiety, headaches, a lack of empathy
and destructive relationships. Women who read women’s magazines have lower
self-esteem after looking at pictures of stupidly perfect models (photoshopped
to within an inch of their lives).
Our habits of
consumption are carefully choreographed by the advertising industry which goes
out of its way to ensure we hate ourselves just enough to keep buying things
which are supposed to make us feel better. Of course, it doesn’t work, so back
to the shops we go. The following comes from a marketing website:
“The job of advertisers is to create dissatisfaction in its audience. If people are happy with how they look, they are not going to buy cosmetics or diet books… If people are happy with who they are, where they are in life, and what they got, they just aren’t customer potential – that is, unless you make them unhappy.”
Is it any wonder levels
of depression are reaching epidemic proportions in the Western world? Our
addiction to consumption to fulfil needs we don’t even really have isn’t only
killing the planet, it’s turning us into miserable narcissists.
Thankfully, there is a way
to short circuit this vicious cycle and restore balance and sanity. Gratitude!
Saying Yes to Life
But what about those
times when life really does seem bleak? Gratitude is easy when things are going
well. How can you count your blessings if you feel you don’t have any?
I confess I struggle
with this. I recently experienced a period of turmoil when my life got turned
upside down and shaken until (almost) everything fell away. For a long time I
couldn’t see the ‘almost’ – my focus was so squarely on what I was losing that
I didn’t notice what remained. My mantras became: “Let it go” and “Don’t take
it personally.”
Interestingly, this
emptying process happened hot on the heels of a surge in practising gratitude
and positive thinking, as if merely stating my intentions and opening my heart
to the future was enough to unleash the furies. (I want to write a proper post
about this, so I won’t go into it here, but the phrase ‘Shadow Attack’ is now
firmly in my vocabulary.)
My faith in life and
belief in myself collapsed, and I was forced to learn new coping methods. I
couldn’t conjure hope to save my life. But at my lowest points I always found a
larger perspective waiting to ambush me. At times, I even managed to be
grateful for my difficulties because they were showing me things about myself I
needed to see. They were pushing me over the edge I had been skirting for a
decade.
It is hard to look
darkness in the face. It’s even harder when you know that darkness is inside
you. But what it revealed to me was how much I denied reality. Even when I
thought I was being positive and life-affirming, there was still a part of me
that I was pushing away. I needed to embrace ALL of me, not just the parts I
thought were good or positive or spiritual or acceptable.
I needed to be grateful
for my darkness too.
This is hardcore soul
work and it takes time. I’m still processing and learning and growing. But for
me, gratitude is about accepting reality. To be grateful for anything you must
accept it.
Gratitude is about
saying YES! to life – all of it.
Crisis? What crisis?
When we’re faced with
the looming destruction of our civilisation and the earth on which we depend,
it can be hard to find space for gratitude. It can seem too Pollyannaish to
focus on the good all the time. But perhaps we can learn to be grateful for the
crisis too. There’s nothing like being told your life is about to end to make
you appreciate it more. We have spent too long taking the planet and our lives
for granted.
Maybe fighting for our
lives is the universe’s way of making us grateful for them.
Here’s an exercise to
try from Active Hope – you don’t have
to do this out loud if you’re worried others might think you’re crazy, but then
again, it might be a good thing if more people openly expressed their gratitude
in this way!
Thanking What Supports You To Live
Next time you see a
tree or plant, take a moment to express thanks. With each breath you take in,
experience gratitude for the oxygen that would simply not be there save for the
magnificent work plants have done in transforming our atmosphere and making it
breathable. As you look at all the greenery, bear in mind also that plants, by
absorbing carbon dioxide and reducing the greenhouse effect, have saved our
world from becoming dangerously overheated. Without plants and all they do for
us, we would not be alive today. Consider how you would like to express your
thanks.
Thank you for reading
this! Without you, this blog would be nothing but empty pixels.
Next time, we
continue our journey through Active Hope
with: What Ails Thee? Transforming Pain
into Action
